Welcome to Grooms’ Week on Bridal Musings, where we’re giving gents a chance to shine! While our blog is primarily about weddings from a bride’s perspective, we believe every wedding deserves a dashing groom. All week, we’ll be exploring the world of gentlemen’s attire for weddings, starting with the basics: dressing the part.
When it comes to getting dressed on your big day, it’s easy to assume guys have an easier time than brides. But let’s be real – looking and feeling great is just as important for grooms. It’s not just about throwing on a suit; you need to consider factors like cut, colour, size, and style.
Whether you’re going for top hats and tails, a classic tuxedo, or something more modern and laid-back, the right attire can make all the difference. And let’s not forget about accessories – do you wear a tie, a dickie bow, or go open collar? And what about those socks?
Don’t worry, we’ve got your back (or should I say, your chest?). We’ll be delving into the world of grooms’ attire, covering everything from shirt collars to trouser cuffs. So sit back, relax, and get ready for our comprehensive guide to Grooms Attire 101.
Our Ultimate Grooms’ Guide To Dressing For Your Wedding
The perfect wedding attire is not just limited to the bride. Joseba Sandoval’s stunning photograph via Bridal Musings serves as a great reminder that grooms should also put thought into their outfit choices. With that in mind, let’s break down what makes a well-dressed groom from head to toe. As we explore each element of his attire, don’t forget to scroll down for expert tips and advice to help you pull off your wedding day look.
Suits
As you begin envisioning your wedding day attire, one crucial aspect that likely comes to mind is the groom’s suits. Fashion trends have evolved significantly over time, replacing boxy jackets and loose fit trousers with slim fits and shorter lengths. While this modern aesthetic may not flatter every figure, consulting a tailor or store assistant can help you find the most flattering silhouette for your body type.
When it comes to choosing the perfect suit, you have several options to consider. For formal affairs like black-tie events or top hats and tails ceremonies, renting might be a more budget-friendly option. On the other hand, if you’re planning to wear a navy or grey suit again in the future, investing in a bespoke or off-the-rack suit could be a worthwhile splurge.
Separates
For the modern, stylish groom, opting for separates on the wedding day is an excellent way to make a statement. Start by selecting a blazer that truly reflects your personal taste, then pair it with contrasting pants that complement or clash with the jacket’s colour and pattern. Checks, stripes, and bold colours can create a striking combination, while more subtle choices can also be effective.The possibilities don’t stop at jackets and slacks, though. Separates allow you to mix and match different pieces, such as jeans, chinos, or shorts with shirts, waistcoats, or cardigans. This approach invites experimentation, so feel free to explore Pinterest, celebrity style icons like David Gandy, Eddie Redmayne, and Bradley Cooper, and your own unique aesthetic for inspiration.
Shirts
While a white shirt may seem like a straightforward choice, it can also be a powerful fashion statement. The style you choose ultimately depends on your personal aesthetic and the tone you want to set for your wedding day. You could opt for an open collar with no tie for a relaxed, effortless look or go for a more polished, buttoned-up shirt with a crisp starch finish. For a quirkier touch, consider a Peter Pan collar or even a bold print, like stripes or polka dots. Of course, you don’t have to stick to white – black and colorful options can also make a stylish statement.One important consideration is the fit and condition of your shirt. Make sure it’s well-tailored, neatly pressed, and not too see-through before committing to it. It’s also a good idea to have a backup plan in case of unexpected changes or perspiration on the dance floor. With so many options available, the key to pulling off a great look is finding a shirt that feels like you – without sacrificing your comfort or confidence.
Blazers
When dressing up for a special occasion, there are several guidelines to keep in mind when choosing the perfect blazer. To start, consider the vents at the back of your jacket – opting for a ventless design can create a slimming effect, while double side vents provide more freedom of movement. For taller grooms, three-button jackets are a stylish choice, while shorter men may prefer a deeper V to elongate their torso. Researching different jacket cuts can also help you find the perfect fit, with the Drape Cut being ideal for modern, sharp looks and the Continental cut offering a more classic aesthetic. When it comes to sleeves, opt for shorter, fitted designs that show off a little cuff – this creates a stylish, dapper appearance. Additionally, ensure your jacket is not too long, as this can create an unflattering pucker when sitting in your pockets. Keeping your blazer at a comfortable length will also help you appear taller. Finally, don’t be afraid to experiment with different colors and patterns – a white suit with black lapels, a sharp check sports coat, or sky blue with navy pants are all stylish options.
Pants
When it comes to selecting the perfect pair of pants, we’ve got some expert tips to help you elevate your style. Here’s what you need to know:
Firstly, when it comes to slim-fitting trousers, aim for a cut that is tailored but not too tight. A slight bit of ease through the thigh and knee is key to creating a flattering silhouette.
For those with larger builds, pleated pants can be a great option as they offer more room without looking baggy. On the other hand, flat front trousers are a modern and slimming choice that can work well for most body types.
When it comes to showing off your ankles, this trend is all about balance. A little bit of ankle action can be cool, but you don’t want your pants bunching up around your shoes. Instead, aim for a length that sits just above the shoe line.
Finally, when trying on trousers, make sure to bring along the shoes you plan to wear with them. This will ensure that your pants are the correct length and won’t be overwhelmed by the cuff of a cuffed trouser.
Ties
When it comes to ties, versatility is key. From silk and wool to tweed, the material options are numerous. If you want to add some visual interest, consider choosing a bright hue or a pattern like pin stripes that complements your shirt, jacket, or even the bridesmaids’ attire. For a sleeker, more modern look, a skinny tie is always a great choice. To elevate this style further, incorporate a sharp tie pin for an added touch of sophistication and channel Don Draper’s iconic dapper look.
Bow Ties
With the resurgence of bow ties as a fashion staple, it’s no longer just geeky grooms who can rock this stylish accessory. In fact, there are now three ways to incorporate bow ties into your wardrobe: pre-tyed, self-tie, or clip-on. While pre-tyed bows offer a neat and tidy look, we’re advocates for the guy who can master the art of tying his own. Not only does it exude confidence, but it also makes for a great statement piece to hang loose at the end of the night.In terms of styles, the Butterfly is perhaps the most iconic, characterized by its flowing, blousy silhouette. The Batwing, on the other hand, boasts straight sides and a neater appearance. Then there’s the Club Round, a retro-inspired style that evokes the classic look of old-school waiters. And finally, there’s the Diamond Point, a sharp and unconventional design that’s quickly gaining popularity.
Cravats
Elevate your wedding style with a sophisticated touch – opt for a cravat, also known as an ascot. This classic accessory is perfect for grooms seeking to exude refinement and poise on their special day. A silk scarf in a rich, luxurious tone paired with a timeless pattern such as paisley creates a dashing look that’s sure to make a statement.
For a modern take on the traditional neckerchief, consider an under-the-shirt styling, which adds a touch of casual sophistication to your overall ensemble.
Waistcoats
Waistcoats are a stylish and versatile option for grooms, capable of elevating a traditional wedding look or adding a touch of sophistication to a more relaxed celebration. Whether you’re tying the knot in a hot and humid destination or opting for a classic three-piece suit, a well-chosen waistcoat can make a significant impact.
When selecting your waistcoat, consider matching it to your suit’s fabric, colour, or pattern for a cohesive look. Alternatively, you could opt for a bold contrast to add some visual interest to your overall appearance.
In terms of fit, aim for a waistcoat that comfortably covers your shirt at the front and sits just above your belt line. A slightly shorter length at the sides and back is also acceptable, allowing for a subtle peek at your shirt.
If you’re looking for a bit more breathing room after indulging in some wedding cake, don’t forget to leave the bottom button of your waistcoat open. This will provide a touch of extra comfort without sacrificing style.
For those opting for a three-piece suit, ensure that the V-neckline of your waistcoat is modest enough to be concealed by your jacket when worn.
Kilts
The iconic kilt is often associated with Scottish heritage, but even if you’re not of Scottish descent, the rich history and cultural significance behind this garment make it a fascinating topic. To truly appreciate the kilt’s elegance, one must understand its traditional wear. For instance, the kilt should sit comfortably at or above the navel, with the pleats flowing seamlessly from back to front. This is typically paired with an open jacket, closed waistcoat, winged collar shirt, and a cravat tie, creating a stylish ensemble.In addition to the kilt itself, certain accessories are essential for completing the look. The sporran, a fur pouch worn on a chain or leather strap, adds a touch of sophistication, while the kilt pin serves as a decorative flourish towards the bottom of the garment. Long socks, known as kilt hose, should be worn just below the knee and folded down at the top, with kilt flashes adding a pop of color to the sides.Lastly, traditional shoes called Ghille Brogues tie around the calf and foot, providing a comfortable and stylish finish to the outfit. While some may opt for additional undergarments beneath their kilts, it’s worth noting that traditionally, Scotsmen do not wear underwear with their kilts. Just be prepared for your guests to raise an eyebrow!
Casuals
As couples opt for rustic and informal weddings, grooms are embracing a more relaxed approach to fashion. Gone are the days of traditional formal attire, replaced by casual threads that exude effortless cool. Jeans, chinos, plaid shirts, and Converse trainers have become staples in many a groom’s wardrobe. But what’s key is striking the perfect balance between laid-back and polished. This can be achieved by pairing casual pieces with more refined touches, such as blazers, suspenders, or bow ties. The resulting look is one of contrasted elegance, where the relaxed vibe of the wedding is perfectly mirrored in the groom’s attire. And remember, when going for a casual look, it’s essential to check in with your partner to ensure you’re not outshining them on their special day.
Shoes
When it comes to selecting footwear for your special day, the possibilities are endless and the rules are few and far between. With a focus on comfort and personal style, casual shoes like Converse, Keds or Toms have become increasingly popular, alongside cowboy and Chelsea boots for a more polished finish. Colors can be guided by your overall attire, with black shoes pairing well with black suits and brown shoes complementing navy suits. Grey suits provide a versatile canvas, working well with both black and brown footwear options, although lighter shades may benefit from lighter-colored shoes. In terms of toe shape, pointy toes are often considered more modern and sleek than round or chunky styles, while lacing provides an added touch of sophistication. For those looking to make a fashion statement, retro-inspired styles like spats and tasseled loafers can add a unique touch. Ultimately, prioritizing comfort and ensuring your shoes are well-broken-in and scuffed on the soles before the big day will help prevent any last-minute mishaps.
Buttonholes
In wedding attire, boutonnieres and buttonholes serve as timeless lapel adornments that unequivocally announce the groom’s presence at the celebration. This classic touch has been a staple of special days for centuries.
To ensure seamless integration with the overall aesthetic, it’s crucial to coordinate your boutonniere with the rest of the day’s decor, be it the bouquets, centrepieces, or even the wedding cake. While flowers remain the most popular choice, we’ve witnessed a surge in creativity, featuring succulents, feathers, and foliage. To guarantee optimal results for photographs, refrain from applying your buttonhole until the final moments before the big day.
Pocket Squares
Adding a pop of color and a stylish touch to your suit with a pocket square is as effortless as it gets. The key to pulling off this trend is mastering the art of folding. You can opt for a precise Presidential Fold for a sleek sixties-inspired look, a Puffed Fold for a bold and flamboyant finish, or a Pointed fold to showcase your pocket square expertise. To take it up a notch, consider pairing your chosen fold with a matching pattern to your tie or going against the grain with a contrasting color for a handkerchief.
Cufflinks
With a photo by Wendy Laurel via Style Me Pretty serving as inspiration, cufflinks are an integral aspect of formal dressing that allows couples to inject their personalities into their wedding day attire. From playful to sophisticated, vintage or bespoke designs, the options for cufflinks are vast, offering couples the chance to express their unique style and tell a story about themselves or their relationship. Perhaps you’ll opt for whimsical Lego blocks in a bold hue, understated silver studs, or heirloom-quality monogrammed pieces passed down through generations – whatever your choice, make sure it reflects your individuality and serves as a meaningful addition to your wedding day look.
Socks
Grooms often have a special affinity for socks, and it’s not uncommon to see them proudly sporting their favourite pair on the wedding day. In fact, we’ve rarely come across a real wedding where the groom and his entourage don’t show off their unique sock game. With personalized initials, vibrant colours, or bold prints, socks offer a fun way to add some personality to your attire. When it comes to choosing the perfect socks for your big day, consider what’s meaningful to you and your groomsmen. You could opt for a shared favourite football team, superhero logo, or even a special inside joke. The key is to have fun with it and make it a memorable moment that your friends will cherish for years to come. And let’s get one thing straight: please, for the love of all things good and holy, do not wear white socks with a black suit. Trust us on this one.
Suspenders
There’s something uniquely charming about wearing suspenders on your wedding day, rather than relying solely on belts. The appeal extends beyond functionality – they add an air of elegance and sophistication to the overall aesthetic. When worn, suspenders have a way of making the wearer look sharp and stylish, even when the going gets rough. Whether you’re dealing with a wayward tie or abandoned jacket mid-celebration, the classic charm of suspenders will see you through – and still looking dapper – until the very end.
5 Expert Tips For Looking Sharp on Your Wedding Day
As we prepared for a special collaboration with Bows ‘N’ Ties, founder Hendrik Pohl kindly shared his expertise to help grooms-to-be dress impeccably on their big day. With an exciting giveaway in the works for later this week, Hendrik’s insights are sure to inspire those looking to make a stylish impression.
Prep your Bow Tie
According to our recent survey, an astonishing 1% of adult men can confidently tie their own bow ties. While it may seem like a daunting task, it’s truly a skill that can be mastered with some practice. However, don’t put yourself in a stressful situation on the day of the wedding, when nerves and a few pre-wedding celebratory drinks might make learning this new skill a challenge. Instead, take the time to learn ahead of schedule – ideally even practicing the night before the big day.
Polish Your Shoes
When it comes to dressing formally, there’s nothing that can instantly ruin an otherwise stylish outfit like scuffed or dirty dress shoes. To avoid this common fashion faux pas, make sure to give your footwear some extra TLC before the big day. This is especially important if you’re not planning on breaking out a new pair of shoes – in which case, consider using shoe trees a few weeks prior to help smooth out any cracks and crevices that may have developed over time.
Wear a Boutonniere
With the right accessories, it’s possible to add a touch of elegance and distinction to even the most formal of occasions. The boutonniere is an excellent way to make a statement and set yourself apart from your groomsmen and guests, particularly when everyone else is dressed in black tie attire. Imagine a sea of tuxedos, white shirts, and bow ties, and then picture yours with a beautiful flower or greenery arrangement adding a pop of color and personality.
Light on Starch
A perfectly tailored collar is a hallmark of stylish dressing, but achieving that crisp shape requires a delicate balance. CJ Williams Photography via Bridal Musings provides a beautiful backdrop for exploring this nuance. In the world of garment care, starch plays a crucial role in maintaining a shirt’s structural integrity. When applied to the collar and cuffs, it adds stiffness, preventing them from drooping or losing their defined shape. However, it’s essential not to overdo it. A gentle approach is key, as excessive starch can cause skin irritations and detract from the overall aesthetic. Communicate with your dry cleaner to ensure they apply just the right amount of starch, striking a balance between style and comfort.
Tie Your Tie To The Right Length
When it comes to tying a necktie, the key is to achieve a perfect balance. To avoid looking like Milton from Office Space, ensure that the tip of your tie ends near the center of your belt buckle. This subtle detail can make all the difference in pulling together a sharp and stylish outfit.
A special thank you goes out to Hendrik Pohl, founder of Bows ‘N’ Ties, for sharing his expertise with us. We’re always eager to hear more about what makes a groom look great, so please don’t hesitate to share your own tips in the comments below.
For even more inspiration on stunning groom style, head over to our Grooms’ board on Pinterest and start pinning away!